A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.
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| December 1963 |
Every autumn, every year, my heart remembers a time of personal and spiritual growth. After a brain tumor surgery, my grandmother retains her abilities to comprehend situations, but can no longer verbally express herself. Recalling the summer of 1974 finds me thankful for these last months of sharing, both through tears and gestures, but always laughter was louder. Reflections of my paternal grandmother's last stage of living always bring to mind an unusual demonstration of friendship. Her friend remains faceless to me. She's just a name that I heard from time to time over the years. And, just as mysteriously, for nearly 5 months, a red rose arrived each day.
A Remnant of Love
Once long, long ago, who
knows just when,
Greetings were exchanged.
Neighbors for a while, some
say, these two
Strangers became friends.
Conversations of yester-year
gone
And unrecorded,
How I wish I could go back in
time
To find the secret
Of such enduring friendship,
a gift
Of the heart for life . . .
Sunny skies and death,
together, cast down
Shadows on my soul.
Precious as gold, time seemed
all too short;
She would soon be gone.
Silent tears of helplessness
inside;
Laughter was louder.
Old stories retold became
treasures,
Priceless memories.
Although miles and miles
apart, friendship
Did not notice, and
Always, a token of
remembrance
Was placed by her side.
Gentle reminder, gesture of
love,
Each day one red rose.
Only once did she speak to me
of
Death, my constant thought.
Relentless, calloused foe of
mortal
Life claimed her spirit . . .
Her body lay empty beneath a
Blanket of roses.
I stood beside her grave in
sorrow
For my loss; I wept.
I remember taking one red
rose,
A final farewell.
For me it was a symbol of her
Friend’s tender heart,
Of such enduring friendship,
a gift,
A remnant of love.
Although more than a decade
has passed,
I still think of
her.
Those priceless memories come
to mind
As if time stood still.
Each year when autumn breezes
whisper,
Tears seek revival.
Beneath the sadness I
remember
Laughter was louder.
And my heart is blessed as I
recall
Her final months, when
Always, a token of
remembrance
Was placed by her side.
Gentle reminder, gesture of
love,
Each day one red rose.
How I wish I could go back in
time
To find the secret
Of their enduring friendship,
a gift
Of the heart for life.
(written 1987, Donna Oswalt)
I wrote this poem more than a decade after her death, words eluding my emotions until then. And still, when I think of such friendship, the best definition I can think of is "each day one red rose." What an amazing heart-gift! What a demonstration of love and loyalty! The Life Application Study Bible says, "The greatest evidence of genuine friendship is loyalty." Over nearly four decades later, I have learned this kind of friendship is extremely rare.
God never asks us to do something without having demonstrated it Himself. Jesus tells us to love one another and demonstrates this rare kind of love with His life, death and resurrection. By definition loyalty manifests itself by devotion, honesty, sincerity and support.God models His loyalty to us though His constancy, incorruptibility, steadfastness, and truth. Genuine relationships understand the value of sharing life events; to remember the beginnings, to treasure the laughter, to honor the celebrations, to bear the disappointments, to endure the ordinary, and to love through the endings. God promises to love forever!
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. (1 Corinthians 13:7 NLT) God's love is much more than a token of remembrance or a gesture of love. Christ's unmatched sacrifice becomes God's matchless grace. This holy gift of enduring friendship redefines loyalty's unfailing love as Perfect Love. I have learned this friendship is the rarest of all! ~ dho
Genuine relationships understand the value of sharing life events, to remember the beginnings, to treasure the laughter, to honor the celebrations, to bear the disappoint-ments, to endure the ordinary, and to love through the endings. Donna Oswalt
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. (1 Corinthians 13:7 NLT)
